THE BACKSTORY

A personal testimony of God’sTruth.

For the first sixteen years of my marriage, I struggled to be the kind of husband I ought to have been because I did not fully understand my role.

I tried hard, at least I thought I did, I provided for my family but I was never truly committed to them. I showed up but was never fully present. Something was missing. It was a gradual build-up of unresolved things, and over time it created a drift away from the very place I wanted to be. The more I tried, the more tired I became.

I blamed everything and everyone.

If only my wife were more supportive. If only work was less stressful. If only I had more time. If only I had more money. The list went on. The one person I did not blame was myself. How could I.

Then, at what felt like the lowest point, God stepped in. Through my wife's prayers, the honesty of a close friend and good mentors, I began to see something I had never seen clearly before. The truth about what it means to love a wife the way God intended. Not the version shaped by culture or good intentions, but the kind of love that can only come from Christ.

This is my testimony, and I pray that God will use it to save one more marriage, like He saved mine.


Gerrad

ONE CALLING FOR ALL

One Calling, Five Foundational Truths.

Five foundational revelations about marriage to help you grow in your journey of loving your wife as Christ loved the Church.

1 - Marriage Is A Privileged Calling to Love

For a husband, marriage is a calling to love his wife as Christ loved the church. When this truth is properly understood, the realisation that this calling is not a burden but a real privilege.

2 - The Kind of Love That Changes Everything

The love God calls a husband to is not romantic love. It is unconditional, sacrificial, and sourced entirely from one’s identity in Christ Jesus.

3 - More Than an Example

Jesus Christ models this love perfectly. He also is the source. He is the Vine a husband must remain in. The love God calls a husband to show his wife cannot be sustained without abiding in Christ daily.

4 - The One Who Walks With You

The Holy Spirit has been sent to help us love like Christ loved. More than a distant helper, the Holy Spirit is a close companion that is present in every conversation, and every ordinary moment of a marriage.

5 - The Unconscious Barrier to Love

Unconscious pride blocks husbands from loving well. It disguises itself as ambition or success. The remedy is Christ-like humility, submitting personal will to God's, as Jesus did.

CLEAVING BROTHERS

You are not meant
to walk alone.

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